A Little Bit About Me
As'salaamu'alaikum,
I am a 28 year old hijabi working my way through a 2nd Bachelor's degree in Computer Science, the first is in Environmental Science, and I am on the exhibitional gymnastics team at school, although we'll see, if I don't actually develop some skills I may switch back to something else. I have at one time or another ridden horseback and done martial arts (Taekwondo). I'm very athletic, currently I do the gymnastics and skate, but I won't compromise my hijab, which makes it hard sometimes.
I like to read (a lot, very bookwormy) and talk and I want to have children eventually, but the idea still scares me. Actually, the idea of getting married at all scares me, but I want somebody to be special to me and to think of me as special to them.
I also knit, a lot more lately than I have before. My mother taught me to knit a while ago, but it's one of those things that you don't do for a while and then you go back and do a lot. So now I'm in a doing it a lot phase. I want to learn to spin also and to shear sheep. If I can't find somebody and am alone and lonely much longer, I'll protect my chastity, and my sanity, by finding a shearing company to work with during my breaks. I am bad at breaks from school, because then there's time to think way too much.
What else? I grew up Muslim and moved around a LOT. I've lived in MD, CA, West Africa, and I was born in Saudi Arabia, but my parents left almost right after I was born, so I don't remember it much. I have no idea where I want to live or what I want to do with my life. I'm very independent, but also lonely. I don't know about this whole marriage thing, and it scares me, did I mention that?, but I fear Allah and would never date, unless it were to try to be getting married.
I work in tech support, helping people with their computers and I like my job. I'm going to school to be a programmer though, mainly because it's a good occupation and there are always good jobs for good programmers.
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What I Am Looking For
I'm looking for someone tall and kind, sensitive, athletic, Muslim who actually wants to be Muslim. I have to be attracted to you, but I don't really focus on looks. It's just that I'm either into you or I'm not and it's based more on the kind of person you are than what you look like. It'd be nice if we have similar interests or at least that you like books, so I can talk your ear off about whatever I'm reading. I'm slowly reading more Qur'an, or trying to, and it would be nice if you are also trying to learn or if you already know a lot. I don't, and sometimes it's hard.
I want a partner, who values me for me and not as an archetype or for what you wish I were. I want someone to give my affection to and who will be affectionate with me. How we decide to run our marriage is kind of flexible, you know, things like who does the dishes, but I don't want to feel like your slave. I've lived on my own for a while now and I'm used to taking care of myself and being "grown". I don't know how to fit that into suddenly having another person to accommodate, but I'm willing to give it a shot.
I don't want to wear the proverbial "pants" either: I am a strong person, I have to be in order to even try to be Muslim in this Dunya, and I want you to be strong enough to be a man without me having to be less than a woman.
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